By Justin Wishart
At Faith Beyond Belief we want to model how Christians can winsomely engage the public, including government officials. This is one letter that a concerned Christian parent wrote to a public official about the issue of transgenderism.
I am a proud father of two wonderful daughters. As their father, I take seriously the duty to protect and care for them. To me, their lives and well-being are more important to me than my own. Not only is this true emotionally, but I believe God, the maker of all things, gave me these daughters specifically with the mandate that I should love and protect them. This is as great an expression of my religious convictions as there is. In short, I love and care for them at a much deeper level than you are capable of.
This is the motivation behind my open letter. You have undermined the safety and dignity of my daughters with the adoption of the “Guidelines for Best Practices” document. Before I explain why this is so, I would like to explain why I created this open letter. I sent a letter to the Education Minister, David Eggen (NDP), and my MLA, Prasad Panda (Wildrose). Mr. Eggen replied with what appeared to be a generic form letter. It had the appearance of something sent any parent who may express some concern for these guidelines. The reply did not address even one of my concerns, not one. It seems clear that the Education Minister did not read what I sent and, judging by the response, they have not officially addressed the problems I see. Mr. Panda, as an MLA for the opposition party, offered me encouragement to make my issues known. I agree with Mr. Panda (thank you for actually addressing the concerns I raised) and this is the reason for this letter. When the safety of my children are at stake and my concerns are ignored, I am left with only two options: make this a public matter or remain quiet. My love for my daughters will not allow me to remain quiet.
The Best Practices document states that “strategies should be in place to ensure all areas of the school are safe for all students, all of the time.” Yet, it is the document itself that undermines this goal. The primary issue I have is how the schools identify a transgendered person: “Self-identification is the sole measure of an individual’s sexual orientation, gender identity or gender expression.” This clearly states that there are no other criteria which override a simple claim. No test, no medical evidence, nothing to confirm a person’s claim. I understand why this is, as there is nothing that can possibly verify someone being transgendered. The document uses the term “evidence-based” throughout, but at the most basic level of this discussion, there is no “evidence-based” data for a subjective claim to transgenderism. It follows that anyone can make the claim, for any reason, and the school would simply accept it.
Put aside your political correctness for just a moment and think about that. One could claim transgenderism because the person feels like a girl trapped in a boy’s body. Yet, another person could claim the same thing just because they want to look at naked girls. According to the Best Practices document, there is absolutely no way to tell one from the other. My daughters become potential victims, over and over again, and the school isn’t allowed to stop it. This will allow a boy with sexual issues into my girl’s washroom since students “are able to access washrooms that are congruent with their gender identity.” This potential victimization of my daughters is not some vague theory. At the University of Toronto, they had to revise their inclusive washroom policy because of voyeurism. Two people were seen recording their victims as they used the washroom. How many more people were victimized this way without their knowledge? What would be different here?
Unfortunately, it gets worse. Not only should these false claimers be allowed into the washrooms, but also in change-rooms. “Students with diverse sexual orientations, gender identities and gender expressions have a right to accommodation when it comes to the use of washroom and change-room facilities that are congruent with their gender identity.” How easy would it be for a boy to sneak a camera into a change-room because they falsely claim to be transgendered? Not only would you be allowing such a person to lewdly view my daughters, you set up a very real possibility of them being victimized on the Internet. This also applies to sport teams, as it states, “if sports teams are divided by gender, students are given the opportunity to participate on the team that reflects their gender identity and expression.” As a former wrestler, I shudder at the thought of girls being forced to wrestle with boys who falsely claim transgenderism. This easily opens girls up to be molested by such people; all with the school’s approval. Given these guidelines, how could you stop it? This does not even include the real possibility of an unfair physical disadvantage given to my daughters, and can discourage female participation in sports.
Yet, it even gets worse. This doesn’t merely apply to students, but to adults as well. “Family members are able to access washrooms that are congruent with their gender identity.” When pedophiles are given a ready excuse to be somewhere they should not be, this will merely embolden them. It is not outside the realm of possibility that a parent who is a pedophile slipping into the girl’s washroom where my daughter is. There he will have uninhibited access to her. If a teacher happens to walk in before anything happened, the pedophile would simply claim transgenderism. The teacher becomes powerless to do anything at this point. Sure, she can wait around until he leaves, but the pedophile could simply attend the next function and try again until he is successful. Even if a “legitimate” transgender physical man walks into the washroom, my daughters could feel vulnerable and more than a bit frightened. This, then, undermines her sense of security. Things like this have happened. Christopher Hambrook, self-identifying as Jessica, was granted access to a woman’s shelter where he sexually assaulted at least two women in Ontario. Hambrook had previous convictions including a sexual assault of a five-year-old girl and raping a 27-year-old woman. The proposed guidelines found within this document are similar to the Ontario laws which allowed Hambrook access to the vulnerable women. What’s to prevent a “family member” from doing the same thing here?
Then, the Best Guidelines policy further undermines the dignity of my daughters. If they feel threatened or insecure, whether it is due to a real or perceived threat, they are shamed if they bring it up. “A student who objects to sharing a washroom or change-room with a student who is trans or gender-diverse is offered an alternative facility.” It is my daughters who get paraded around the school, thus showing everyone how “intolerant” they are. This will marginalize them and open them up to ridicule. Not only does the policy undermine the safety and security of my daughters, they are publicly exposed and shamed if they decide not to be a victim.
I know it must be difficult for a student to feel that their physical sex doesn’t match their internal sex. Growing up can be confusing enough without throwing something like this into the mix. I also, on a certain level, understand the government’s desire to offer help to such students in this manner. I also find no solid evidence that this would even be helpful to children who claim transgenderism. What if these children experience gender dysphoria? Could these guidelines end up harming children by affirming their dysphoria?
I also demand, yes demand, that my daughters are not sacrificed on the altar of political correctness. To be clear, I do not think that every person, or even most people, who claim to be transgendered are predators. But, to be even more clear, predators will use the ideas expressed in these guidelines to help them catch their prey. It may not happen right away, but we can see that these things are happening in other jurisdictions. Let’s have an open-minded and inclusive conversation about this, not the narrow-minded, politically-correct, and totalitarian approach these guidelines propose. The lives and well-being of my daughters depend on it.
My daughters’ father,